Not exactly ectoplasm, a substance alleged to emanate from a medium and produce living forms. (I read the dictionary for fun. Where did Webster’s get this definition from?) I’ve sensed plenty of spirits and energy entities, even seen a few ghosts, ahem, apparitions, and not one of them ever produced a substance or manifested a living form from pink goo (Ghostbusters, baby!). They can appear solid and do have visible shapes, but they can’t emanate anything but their presence, soul, energy, whatever. But it sounds cool as a title, so…there ya go.
Mostly I sense energy forms. My karaoke friends and spirit circle used to like to play a game with me. We’d be in the bar and one of them would say, “Close your eyes, Eileen.” Or one of them would clap their hands over my eyes. “Okay, now point us all out.” I could sense them, “see” their energy forms, pulsing at different rates, strengths, sometimes with colors. So I’d identify each friend. Then, the fun part – they’d shift positions, scurrying across the bar to the crowded dance floor, hiding in the rest room, ducking down behind the pool players. I would scan the area (eyes still closed or shielded by the non-participant), pinpointing each one, and wait for them to return to me. As they sat down again, often giggling, I’d tell them where each had tried to hide. I would almost always be right. They thought it was cool, I thought it was normal.
A few years before I met those friends, I was working as a waitress. I came back from serving a customer and remarked, “Oh, he is so nice. And he shines!” I hadn’t quite learned to keep my mouth shut around people who didn’t know me very well. My snippy and somewhat prejudiced co-worker whispered, “What? People don’t shine. And, and, he’s…black!” She sounded so angry. I turned around and looked at my customer again. “Oh, so he is. He’s still nice and has a shining soul.” Apparently, I don’t notice things like skin color, race, so-called handicaps, even gender or sexual orientation. I see energy first, then the normal human stuff.
In grade school and high school, I had a friend named Peter. He taught me how to leave my body and hang out near the ceiling, usually during lunch, so we could watch everybody below us. I worried about getting food stuck in my hair or being poked by a fork (do kids still throw stuff up into the ceilings of cafeterias?). Peter laughed and said I’d be fine. No one noticed us up there, and since I had a tendency to sleep during lunch (eat that food? No way!), no one noticed me slumped in my chair. ‘Course, no one noticed Peter – I was the only one who could see and hear him. He was such a sweet spirit. He stopped hanging around when I started tenth grade and was suicidal. I think that drove him away and I’m sorry about it. I missed him. But I did make new (flesh) friends and school was a wonderful place; I made sure I signed up for things that let me stay until long after dinnertime over at the house of Hell….I so wanted to live at school full-time…
Anyway, sometimes, it was hard to differentiate between my energy friends and my flesh friends – to me, they all looked like they belonged in this world. I never talked about my spirit friends, though; I must have mentioned it when I was little and got beaten for “lying.” That’s a “black hole” memory – one of many black chunks in my memory and if my siblings’ stories are true, then I really don’t want to open those black holes, thank you very much.
It was nice to meet like-minded people, form our circle, practice with our meta abilities. I’d been a solitary for too long. It was great to discover I wasn’t completely crazy!
Then, things happened when we lived in Arizona that really made me feel good. They didn’t start happening until the boys were in their teens. Our oldest son came bounding in from school one day and said, “Hey, Mom! My favorite teacher is surrounded by blue light! Is that her aura? What is an aura? Does that mean I can see auras?”
They wanted me to give them Tarot Card readings. Then, they wanted their own Tarot decks. We started basic energy lessons and discovered the younger son had an affinity with EVERY element. My strongest affinity is with Air. Sister Air and I have a playful and refreshing relationship. When I’m sad, when I feel blocked, when I need Her, I can step outside and She’ll blow through me, a gentle greeting, a breezy tug, a cleansing that soothes and invigorates me. Because of years of training, I can get every element to respond to me, but no newbie just steps up and gets Them ALL to respond in the first lesson. My youngest boy did.
Brother Fire is the most willing to respond, and also the most unpredictable. You can’t, and don’t, want to control the elements; just get them to play a bit, respond, and help you if needed, when asked. That’s Rule Number One: Always ASK, Never Command. So, there we were, trying to make a candle flame respond to our wills. And JR’s danced beautifully for him. “Oh, cool, you have a Fire affinity,” I said.
Then, it was Water. Ask the water in the glass to go from cold to warm to cold again, then ask Sister Water to bubble for you. Sure enough, Water played with JR almost immediately. Okay, people can have a strong affinity to more than one element…
I had to go stand across the room, nearly out of sight for Sister Air to respond to him; we had to make sure She wasn’t coming to my call. Goosebumps rose on his skin and his older brother watched the fan start slowly spinning (windows and doors closed, no one moving; we were barely breathing!). JR said he could feel his hair moving and smelled fresh rain. (Note here: It was clear and hot that night with no wind, and while it DOES rain in Tucson, it has to be a long rainstorm going for almost a full day before it smells like rain or smells fresh. When it rains in Tucson, it smells like dust or mud.)
By now, older son had given up and was perfectly happy to watch his brother. I sat back down and didn’t have to hand JR the stones representing Earth. He picked them up and described the sensations, let us feel them warming to his slightest touch…
I grinned. “Well now, I’ve never heard of this. I’ll ask around if you want more training or a different mentor.” A few days later, we discovered I was probably the best teacher for him at that time. We were doing something at the kitchen table (I think reading the Tarot), and hubby walked by. One glance and he grumped, “Great, you turned my son into a witch.” Then he smiled to let us know he was joking and it was okay. He’s good like that, even though he doesn’t want to know anything more about our “woo-woo” stuff! 🙂
My two favorite stories…I was in drum journey one day, having a lovely time with very interesting visions, when a door slammed downstairs. A second later, Brian shouted, “Mom!” Now, it doesn’t matter how deep a trance I’m in or how far of a journey I’m on, my child’s call will snap me back instantly. I sat up and said, “Up here!”
Feet pounded upstairs and both boys were staring at me. “What were you doing? A tornado just touched down on Ina!” Tornadoes are VERY rare in Tucson and they just do NOT touch down on a busy road in the middle of a clear day. Dust devils might swirl through, but a real tornado, nope, not the climate for it. I was flattered that they thought I, or rather, the Energy that works through me, could be so powerful, but had to correct them. “No, no, I don’t play with, manipulate or control the weather. In fact, any human who thinks they have such power over Mother Nature is an arrogant idiot.” And we went on another lesson regarding the elements.
But, they would give me a look, sometimes, when they knew I was wishing for rain when there was absolutely no chance of rain…and it would rain. Hey, it wasn’t me! But, yeah, Sister Air likes to make me happy…
The other story…I was sitting in the office one day, playing on the computer. The office shared a wall with the garage. Brian was out there, working on his Mustang. I noticed a ripple in the air to the side of the desk and our black cat, our DEAD black cat, Sunshine, sauntered through the wall and walked past me into the living room. He twitched his tail at me and disappeared when he reached the couch. Barely a breath later, Brian slammed into the house from the garage (yes, he likes to slam doors).
“Mom! Sunshine just walked across the garage and disappeared through the wall!”
“I know, honey, he’s hiding IN the couch.”
“Holy shit! I guess this means I really can see ghosts! Cool!”
“Wait, what? When have you seen ghosts before?”
“In New York, in the Fort Plain house. There was an old guy who would stand at the top of the stairs and yell silently at us. Oh, and the dark Thing in the cellar behind the old cistern.” He glanced around. “But they aren’t here. Did you know this house is alive, too?”
“Yes, sweetie, the House’s Heart is in your sister’s room. That’s why it’s always so comforting in there.”
At that point, his sister (who, like her father, wants nothing to do with our “woo-woo” stuff, but I know is a strong psychic who has blocked her gift) was coming down the stairs and calmly said, “No, Mom, it moved. It’s in your bathtub now, where you do your meditations.” She promptly left the house to meet her boyfriend, leaving us wondering how much of our conversation she had heard with her physical ears and how much she had just “picked up on.”
I love my kids. They are just THE coolest people! Why were they so accepting, calm, curious, about all this beyond-real-world stuff? Maybe because, to their mother, it was normal to see ghosts, talk to energy beings, play with the elemental entities, sense the Presence of a loving Divine…I treated everything like it was normal because, to me, it IS normal, just part of Life. They never got yelled at or slapped for sensing otherworldly things or talking about them. No one freaked out, it was all fine. Even their non-believing father accepted that his wife was a bit weird, so it was all good. And yep, while hubby jokes we are knee-deep in shit, I prefer to call it ectoplasm; it’s easier to clean up and doesn’t smell. Hey, it’s three (possibly four) ectoplasm believers against Capt’n Poopy-head! We win! 😀